Our Father loves Him/Her More Than You Do

“For God so [greatly] loved and dearly prized the world, that He [even] gave His [One and] only begotten Son, so that whoever believes and trusts in Him [as Savior] shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 Amplified Bible

“Even when I detach, I care. You can be separate from a thing and still care about it.” David Levithan

Do you have someone in your life that is troubled? Ill? Addicted? Clueless? Dead?

We all do, I’m afraid. When my husband was dying and died, I was torn apart. The one thing that kept me knowing that our Father has all under control was the statement, I love him more than you do. Did I understand? No. Did it hurt? Yes.

When my niece, addicted to meth, abandoned her daughter and is nowhere to be found, possibly dead, a quiet voice said, “I love her more than you do.” Did I understand? No. Was there angst? Yes.

It’s true our Father loves them more than we do. There’s evidence. Our Father sent his son to a horrific death filled with shame, torture and total abandonment by friends, his disciples and his Father. Our Father loved his son more than we do.

I could not sacrifice my son for sinners. Just the thought wrenches my heart.

“How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know husband, whether you will save your wife? Regardless, each one should lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him and to which God has called him.” 1 Corinthians 7:16 Hands off! With love, prayer, wisdom for the day and attending to my own walk with an open heart.


We must release our loved one looking to ourselves and our Father to keep us faithful. Sometimes a miracle happens and the loved one is in remission, rehabilitated and counseled to a Godly life. And sometimes, painfully true, not. So we do not lean on our own understanding but release them to our Father with prayer and his wisdom. Our Father created them before the foundation of the world.


Dear Father,

Our words are insufficient to describe our loved one’s suffering and our overwhelming need to fix them and control the situation. Many times, our suffering is greater than our loved one’s. We see with such clarity how a loved one’s life may end. We are powerless to change it. You experienced even more suffering with your son’s death for us. We don’t question your understanding.

We greatly miss our deceased loved ones.

We question why as You companion us through the dark. We’ll know someday. We see “darkly.”

We believe. Help our unbelief.

With gratefulness.


Published by Barbara Hinther

Barbara Hinther author of Meditations and Encouragement for the Caregiver of a Loved One with Dementia and What About Me, God. Time to share what she has learned and hopefully, others will know they are not alone. This too, shall pass with beautiful, yet painful, lessons. Barbara lives in a rural town in Idaho where all is community. Bless everyone in the community for their support and their never-ending let’s pitch in attitude! She worked in marketing for over 30 years and volunteered with the Idaho Youth Ranch and St. Vincent’s de Paul Thrift Store. Then her hardest job ever was caring for her husband who died from Lewy body dementia and needed her full-time care. Feelings of abandonment were constant. Life was very difficult for a while, but love, faith and hope will overcome. Let the adventure continue!

2 thoughts on “Our Father loves Him/Her More Than You Do

  1. You post is so true. I have a son who was addicted to heroin, I think he is off it. He never returns my calls, never comes around to visit, ignores his brother’s attempts to connect, etc. My heart is breaking but when I pray, I remind my self that God loves Steven more than I do. I have to trust that God is working in my son’s life and is leading him out of his sinful lifestyle. Thank you for sharing. Joyce


    1. I am so very sorry you’re going through this. Sending you a spiritual, virtual hug. Thank you for sharing your heartbreak with me. You’re in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you have a support system and joy in your life with some peace.

      Blessings, comfort and care.


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