Your Inner “Kiddo”

“All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children.” Isaiah 54:13 NIV

“The most sophisticated people I know – inside they are all children.” ― Jim Henson, creator of the Muppets

Do you still chuckle at silly jokes?

Like to draw?

Play with animals?

Love stories?

Camping?

Noah’s Ark?

Popcorn and movies? I love the drive-in movies from so long ago.

Me too! No matter your physical age, there’s a child inside. Here’s the tough part: You talk to your inner child like your parents and significant others talked to you.

You’re stupid!

How could you?

Why did you?

If everyone jumped off the bridge, would you?

Again?

Get busy or else!

Because I said so, that’s why.

The above are the easy ones.

Time for a reboot.

Think hard. Do you talk to your children that way? Other children? Other people, for that matter?

It’ll take you 90 days of practice to say good things to your inner kiddo consistently. Way more if your home life was dramatic, traumatic, dysfunctional or filled with addictions.

You’re the parent now and…

Not everyone starts at the same place.

No fair! We yelled at our parents or someone when an injustice was perceived. One of the first painful lessons as a child was life isn’t fair. “Eat your vegetables. Don’t you know that kids in (some third world country) would love to eat carrots?”

You’ve heard the phrase, “I may not seem like much but you should’ve seen where I started.” There’s a boatload of truth in that phrase.

Some of us came from loving homes where faith, approval, acceptance and love were consistent. Not perfect but consistent. But I bet it’s not that many. Those that had the blessing of a loving family may struggle accepting those “in the hole,” as it were.

Those of us starting in the hole envy those “normal” people. Envy and self-rejection are constant. Self-esteem? What’s that?

Hope: The Father through Jesus is your parent now. Talk to your inner kiddo as you would your children or others. Praise your inner kid. Your inner kiddo does some terrific things—look. Make a list. Put your arms around yourself. Snuggle up with your favorite blanket and watch an inspiring children’s movie. Eat a fresh baked cookie. Talk to your Father as an innocent child.

Yes, even your inner kiddo will throw a tantrum now and then because they don’t trust you. You let people hurt your inner kiddo and it may not have truly been your fault.You made some very unwise choices, no doubt. Apologize and make amends. Let the Father show the way. Look up children online or in your Bible and take in how loved and valued they are. You are. You are a child of God. Start talking to yourself as a tender, innocent and open child with arms raised for heavenly love.

Musings

Is it true?

Is it helpful?

Is it kind?

This is what I use with prayer and support. Your inner kiddo will flourish!

Prayer

Dear Father,

Your love is immeasurable! Little kids look at the sky, oceans, dinosaurs, twinkle lights and heroes with such great reverence, openness and love. Innocent like your son. We are your children. Please companion us today and show us what a wonderful treasure we are to you and you to us.

Amen.

Published by Barbara Hinther

Barbara Hinther author of Meditations and Encouragement for the Caregiver of a Loved One with Dementia and What About Me, God. Time to share what she has learned and hopefully, others will know they are not alone. This too, shall pass with beautiful, yet painful, lessons. Barbara lives in a rural town in Idaho where all is community. Bless everyone in the community for their support and their never-ending let’s pitch in attitude! She worked in marketing for over 30 years and volunteered with the Idaho Youth Ranch and St. Vincent’s de Paul Thrift Store. Then her hardest job ever was caring for her husband who died from Lewy body dementia and needed her full-time care. Feelings of abandonment were constant. Life was very difficult for a while, but love, faith and hope will overcome. Let the adventure continue!

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