Magical Thinking

“Come now, let us reason together,” says the LORD. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they will be as white as snow; though they are as red as crimson, they will become like wool.” Isaiah 1:19 Berean Bible

“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.”
― Paulo Coelho

Children’s Magical Thinking

Close your eyes, hide under the covers and the monster is gone!

Rub the lamp and a magic genie will give you everything you want!

Santa knows who’s been bad and who’s been good.

Wish upon a star!

If I just had a magic wand! I did. I bought it at the county fair and it melted in the hot car.

Adult Magical Thinking

I can love this person into change – No. No you can’t. That’s God’s job.

I’ll have just one more (fill in the blank) then I’m done. From one more drink to one more potato chip…

My problems will be gone if I (fill in the blank). I tried denying. Not recommended.

We’ll live happily ever after. Even the best Christian couples may not.

If I work harder. Yes. Work harder. Avoid your family, hurt your health and lose your temper from exhaustion.

If I have more faith. So much for the mustard seed?

If I don’t enjoy this moment, tribute, windfall or whatever, pain won’t come. Putting off good to avoid future pain.

And all time myths

Peace means absence of conflict

Freedom means absence of conflict

Love means absence of conflict

Jesus had conflict all the time! And Jesus had peace, freedom and love.

I love my child. The curfew is 11:00 p.m. I love my spouse. Please pick up your dirty socks. You are free to come to work anytime you choose. I am free to find someone else to do the work.

I still do magical thinking at times. Earning love is one. Jesus definitely had no acceptance, belonging and love from his siblings, religious leaders or politicians. He had a tax collector and a zealot in his band of 12. Many tried to trap him. But He went out and healed, loved, encouraged and prayed. Many times his feelings, I’m guessing because he was fully human, never determined his actions. I think of his agony in the garden and he prayed for the cup to be removed. We all do sometimes.  All he did was an example for us. There were miracles to be sure, but there were still many difficult times. The people he healed and rose from the dead still died eventually. He came to show us something far greater. If we ask, seek and knock because we love him, we shall receive.


I admit, if I won the lottery fantasies, ability to cure cancer or dementia, or go to outer space are fun imaginations. As long as I’m on Earth, conflict comes. If the Son of Man had conflict, so will we. But he gave us a Helper, his word and each other and he always brings good from it. For His glory. And his glory is ours. He said everything I have is yours.


Dear Father,

Oh how we grapple with boring times, difficult times, traumatic times praying for your will but our hearts aren’t in it. We make wishes, peek at superstitions and create stories to avoid the pain. That’s why you counseled us to worry only about today. You love us. You’re with us. You create something beautiful from our struggles.

Thank you.


Published by Barbara Hinther

Barbara Hinther author of Meditations and Encouragement for the Caregiver of a Loved One with Dementia and What About Me, God. Time to share what she has learned and hopefully, others will know they are not alone. This too, shall pass with beautiful, yet painful, lessons. Barbara lives in a rural town in Idaho where all is community. Bless everyone in the community for their support and their never-ending let’s pitch in attitude! She worked in marketing for over 30 years and volunteered with the Idaho Youth Ranch and St. Vincent’s de Paul Thrift Store. Then her hardest job ever was caring for her husband who died from Lewy body dementia and needed her full-time care. Feelings of abandonment were constant. Life was very difficult for a while, but love, faith and hope will overcome. Let the adventure continue!

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