Purposeful Loving–Purposeful Living

“looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.” Hebrews 12:2 ESV

“True love doesn’t happen by accident. It’s deliberate, it’s intentional, it’s purposeful and in the end…it’s worth it.” -Darlene Schacht 

It’s also a daily decision. It applies to you and me.

Despising the shame.

Or do we despise ourselves?

Shame is despised because it comes between us and our Father–our growth, our love, our confidence, our success, our relationships with our Father and others. We will “fall on rocky ground” until we remove it’s power and presence in our lives.

Purposeful loving:

It’s deliberate

It’s intentional

It’s personal

It’s hard work

It’s determined

It promises joy

But first, clean-up on aisle three

You weren’t meant to do this alone.

We may need the help of a mature friend, pastor or counselor to root out shame. Shame is a lie! Shame says you’re the problem. Guilt says I made a mistake but I am not a mistake. This is a life-long battle. Here’s what to do: “If someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore that person gently.” Be gentle with yourself too.

Purposeful loving demands we sweep out shame, wash it away “with the Word of Truth calling on his name,” bar-the-door and never look back on or in shame. We are making room for joy and all the blessings joy brings.


“That’s just the way I am. I’m the black sheep of the family. I’m the runt of the litter. Damaged goods. I’ve never been good.” No. No longer. We purposefully love ourselves, our Father and others.  That’s how we despise shame. The Bible promises joy.


Dear Father,

Jesus took away all our shame, whether we recognize it or not. Jesus took away our guilt too. Jesus gave us joy, rest and peace. His burden is light because he took away our shame and guilt. All of it. May we, with deep thanks, reflect this in our lives.

Every day, we wake up with thanks because you and Jesus so love us.


Published by Barbara Hinther

Barbara Hinther author of Meditations and Encouragement for the Caregiver of a Loved One with Dementia and What About Me, God. Time to share what she has learned and hopefully, others will know they are not alone. This too, shall pass with beautiful, yet painful, lessons. Barbara lives in a rural town in Idaho where all is community. Bless everyone in the community for their support and their never-ending let’s pitch in attitude! She worked in marketing for over 30 years and volunteered with the Idaho Youth Ranch and St. Vincent’s de Paul Thrift Store. Then her hardest job ever was caring for her husband who died from Lewy body dementia and needed her full-time care. Feelings of abandonment were constant. Life was very difficult for a while, but love, faith and hope will overcome. Let the adventure continue!

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