Self-Condemnation or Self-Examination?

“Therefore there is now no condemnation at all for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1 NASB (Emphasis mine)

“The more we let God take us over, the more truly ourselves we become – because He made us. He invented us. He invented all the different people that you and I were intended to be. . .It is when I turn to Christ, when I give up myself to His personality, that I first begin to have a real personality of my own.” C.S. Lewis

How do you talk to your pet? Do you say, “Good boy/girl! Oh, you’re so pretty/handsome! You’re so smart!” Now, how do you talk to yourself? Do you say, “I’m such an idiot! I look like hell today! My body disgusts me! How could I have done such a thing? I’ll never get over this.” Those condemning words are not from our heavenly father. They’re from a critical parent, boss, significant person, the Enemy and our own brainwashed mind. And they’re lies! The battle in our minds!

Sometimes, most times, Black Sheep, Scapegoats, dysfunctional people and sinners dwell on the negative about themselves and hurt themselves over and over! Dwelling, ruminating, navel-gazing and self-sabotage rule the day. Like picking at a scab and letting it fester. A victim, again!

Somehow, we think the harder we are on ourselves the better we’ll be. NOT TRUE! This has failed us over and over. And our Father knows this. In fact, the harder we dwell on our shortcomings, mistakes and sins, the more power they gain. That’s not our goal, but that’s the result. What do we do?

There’s no condemnation from God. We can honestly tell him everything. Pour our hearts out to him. Hold nothing back. Hide nothing. He knows anyway! We are free to do this because we know “the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.” No condemnation! None! Nada! Bupkis! Then authentic and life-giving transformation begins.


Start talking to yourself like you would a good friend or beloved pet. It’ll be difficult at times. Ask your Father to show you the way. He will. Gently. Don’t focus on the negative. You’ll only give it power. Focus on him. He’ll give you power. And think how fruitful you’ll become.


Dear Father,

Thank you for your gentleness. Thank you for your acceptance. Thank you that you made us. You called us good when you created us. As we go throughout our day, please remind us of all the good we are and do. It’s not arrogance. That’s insecurity. It’s confidence. God confidence. We see it in your son. May we take hold of it.


Published by Barbara Hinther

Barbara Hinther author of Meditations and Encouragement for the Caregiver of a Loved One with Dementia and What About Me, God. Time to share what she has learned and hopefully, others will know they are not alone. This too, shall pass with beautiful, yet painful, lessons. Barbara lives in a rural town in Idaho where all is community. Bless everyone in the community for their support and their never-ending let’s pitch in attitude! She worked in marketing for over 30 years and volunteered with the Idaho Youth Ranch and St. Vincent’s de Paul Thrift Store. Then her hardest job ever was caring for her husband who died from Lewy body dementia and needed her full-time care. Feelings of abandonment were constant. Life was very difficult for a while, but love, faith and hope will overcome. Let the adventure continue!

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