Abandonment

“Although my father and my mother have abandoned me, Yet the Lord will take me up [adopt me as His child].”

Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close.” Psalm 27:10 NLT

“For my father and my mother have forsaken me, But the Lord will take me up.” Psalm 27:10 NASB

Many of us have been forsaken and/or abandoned. There is a subtle difference, but the feelings are still devastating, dark, life-damaging.

As verbs the difference between forsake and abandon:

Forsake is to abandon, to give up, to leave (permanently), to renounce while abandon is to subdue; to take control of, slavery.

Sometimes it feels like both forsake and abandoning are happening in our lives. A spouse has an affair, parents leave either through addiction, death or their own issues, colleagues dump work or gossip. Even worse, dealing with abandonment and being forsaken as a child takes a lot of work to heal and overcome even though the Lord has taken us up. Adopted us.

I come back to the Prodigal Son when I’m feeling abandoned. The imagery of the father rushing out to embrace his black sheep son in front of the judgmental Pharisees is so comforting. So uplifting. So encouraging. So loving.  How about the loving and forgiving image of Jesus with the prostitute? Then there’s the 23rd Psalm, which is soothing and reassures us that we do have a Father that cares beyond human love. We may feel abandoned and forsaken, but if we just hang on, our Father reveals a new family, friends, colleagues. He breaks the bonds of addictions, loneliness, shame and spiritual poverty.

Musings and Prayer

Father,

Thank you for our adoption where we are free to cry out as if for the first time, “Abba! Daddy.”

The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.

He maketh me to lie down in green pastures:

He leadeth me beside the still waters.

He restoreth my soul:

He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil:

for thou art with me; Thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies:

Thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life:

And I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.

Amen.

Published by Barbara Hinther

Barbara Hinther author of Meditations and Encouragement for the Caregiver of a Loved One with Dementia and What About Me, God. Time to share what she has learned and hopefully, others will know they are not alone. This too, shall pass with beautiful, yet painful, lessons. Barbara lives in a rural town in Idaho where all is community. Bless everyone in the community for their support and their never-ending let’s pitch in attitude! She worked in marketing for over 30 years and volunteered with the Idaho Youth Ranch and St. Vincent’s de Paul Thrift Store. Then her hardest job ever was caring for her husband who died from Lewy body dementia and needed her full-time care. Feelings of abandonment were constant. Life was very difficult for a while, but love, faith and hope will overcome. Let the adventure continue!

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