Harm

“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives” Genesis 50:20 NIV

“Your scars are battle wounds, but you don’t see them that way. Yet.” Tammarra Webber, Novelist

In many Bible translations, the word harm in the above verse says evil instead. It sure feels evil when we’ve been harmed, doesn’t it? Even something as simple as having someone gossip about us burns, angers and embarrasses us.

Harm needs to be acknowledged. It may be as “harmless” as a missed phone call to someone taking credit for your idea or hard work. It may be passive-aggressive behavior like someone showing up late—again. It may have been bitter words tossed about during an argument. Gossip is notorious for harming many. It matters. It’s harmful. It’s destructive.

Harm needs self-compassion. When someone hurts us, some time with the Father with self-compassion is in order. The Psalms are very helpful and comforting. Maybe we can write it down, share it with a wise friend, or a thought adjustment: Whose problem is this? Sometimes it’s a reflection on them and has nothing to do with anything you’ve said or done. This is especially true if you’ve suffered a trauma. Professional help and support are essential.

Harm needs prayer. From you and others.

Harm needs courage. As the Serenity Prayer says, “Courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.” More study about setting boundaries may be in order. Setting boundaries is awkward and uncomfortable in the beginning.

Harm needs comfort. If the harm is great, trustworthy people’s love and support are very helpful. When we’ve been harmed, losing perspective and demeaning ourselves while abandoning hope is easy. Seek comfort from fellow Christians.

God uses harm to save many lives. Have you attended support groups, lectures, or read biographies about someone who has overcome a severe injury and/or trauma? I’m currently reading Joey Jones’ book, Unbroken Bands of Battle.  There is so much faith, courage and love in his book! Beyond this is hope. Your battle wounds or scars will help, possibly save many.

Musings

No matter what we say, do or believe, harm will always be in our lives. It’s part of being a human. We will try not to harm others but sometimes it happens. We must believe in our Father’s love and grace for us and make an apology or restitution. More importantly, once harm has been addressed, let it go. It doesn’t vanish into the universe. It’s entrusted into our Father’s generous care for something better, something good.

Prayer

Dear Father,

Help us to see harm in another way. Help us use what has harmed us to encourage us and lift others. Help us to remember how much harm Your Son took while we were yet hostile. Help us to heal.

With thanks and gratefulness.

Amen.